ALL my girlfriends. *giggles*
When i told the girls about Darcy's upcoming trip to Singapore a couple of months back and i would like them to meet up with him for dinner, they quickily jumped to the chance of grilling him with a list of 1001 questions. :P *heehee*
Darcy was getting the jitters all day! Even though i have duly warned Darcy about it being a free for all when it came to the question and answer session, and i know my friends are just looking out for me, i was also getting worried for Darcy.
But nonetheless, it came the time for us to meet the girls and the girls were a lot easier on Darcy than i had expected. We had dinner at Far East Plaza at the Malay eaterie on the 5th Floor (near the elevator). Poor Darcy had a difficult time with his nasi pattaya and this was even after i had told the guy who took our order not to add the chilli padi and make it less spicy so that Darcy wouldn't have a hard time eating the dish. Still, it didn't really help him and he would be subjected to more spicy food throughout his trip here. And i know pay back is a bitch and i will be getting the similar treatment when i am in Canada.
Yani was late, as usual. *giggles* We were all done with our food before she showed with Ben and Sophie. *heehee* Anyways, i kinda ignored Darcy good for the next 30-45mins cos i was carrying Sophie and feeding her iced water and just goofing around with her. :) So now he has fully fully experienced what it is like to be ignored by me becos there is a lil kid or baby that i can hold and carry and play with. :P *heehee* <>After dinner we decided to walk down to Alley Bar to have a drink or two. Along the way we passed by Marriot hotel and took the opportunity to introduce Darcy to the King of Fruits.... DURIANS! *grin* It was a seemingly harmless durian puff with chocolate pastry cover on the the top. But to Darcy it was simply revolting. He took a small first bite and kinda nodded his head and mentioned it was not that bad. (We've been telling him stories about what non-durian fans have to say about the fruit.) Yet for some reason on his second bite he kinda just spat out the whole mouthful and basically said "Oh god!" *makes a face* "Noooo!" and threw away the puff. *giggles* So yeah that was his initiation with the King of Fruits in Asia. :P *hehe*
When we finally settled down at Alley Bar and ordered our drinks, the onslaught of questions finally began. To cut a long story short, Ruth mentioned the issue of family and parents and the Asian traditions. And up till that point, all the questions and the answers that were coming from Darcy... honestly, i knew all the answers that Darcy would give to the questions asked. But when it came to the issue of family and my parents... well it took Darcy by surprise, it took me by surprise cos as he was trying to answer the question pertaining to "What happens if Ee's parents wanted you to go to ROM and get married legally, would you do it for her?" it finally hit me that i want Darcy to be liked by my parents, if not at least they need to acknowledge that he is the man i chose. They might not like it but they won't ignore his existance and ignore him completely in family outings. At least they would be cordial and polite.
Things were getting stressed out at least for me and i was really really thankful that Shywing pulled me aside for a breather and away from the group for a while. When we walked back to the group a while later, things seemed to have lightened up but my mind was still on the question about family. After sitting down for a while, i kinda had to pull Darcy aside and just had to talk to him about the whole issue. Didn't turn out the way i had expected, but it got to a point where it literally hit me that it might be the end of the relationship. And i was at a loss for words and my mind was racing in all directions. So i did what i always do best i guess.... i teared up and almost burst into a sob fest.
I am sure i would have if Darcy hadn't tried to comfort me by hugging me close. And being the thoughtful guy that he has always been asked if i wanted to go back to the hotel to talk things through. I nodded and he offered to go apologise to the girls and collect my bag. Looking back it was just thoughtful and sweet of him but at that point in time all i could think of was that i might have just killed the relationship. One, i wasn't sure what level of commitment Darcy was putting into the relationship although i was sure he is very very fond of me. Two, i didn't know if i could handle it if Darcy were to say something to the effect of 'lets enjoy the rest of the trip and agree to stay as friends'. I have fought so hard for this man that i wasn't willing, able or wanting to let go.
As usual, not more than 5mins into the discussion i was already tearing up and choking on my words. Darcy never fails to surprise me sometimes, and this time was no exception. He said that he cares deeply about me .. once he said that in my mind i was going "uh oh there is a but here somewhere"... and that when i first said that i loved him in person well he has never said it to any of his gf unless he is ready to spend the rest of his life with her. And i told him i was not expecting a response from him in return when i said that. I just wanted him to know. I also told him again and again that i don't want this relationship to end and almost pleading to him not to give up or let go. And here's when the surprise came... he actually said he does not want to end the relationship or let go either and that the last one year being in this relationship with me was one of the happiest times in his life knowing that someone was out there always by his side and alway being there for him.
Finally, he said "Now what can i do to make you stop crying?" Just a couple of day ago, he made me laugh so hard that i was literally crying becos i was laughing so hard. So he was getting uncomfortable seeing me all in tears and visibly upset and was trying to make some smart ass comment to make me smile like he always does when i am feeling down.
Was a rough nite, but i am glad that things worked out well and that i finally saw his commitment to the relationship. I've really fallen for him and i've never felt this strongly about someone before.
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